Experience > Opinions

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There’s something about good teaching—it lingers.

It doesn’t just give you insight in the moment…

• It lands in your body.

• It follows you home.

• It shows up in your thoughts the next morning.

• It finds you mid-walk, mid-meal, mid-sentence.

That’s what happened for me yesterday.

We had our first 2-hour masterclass inside the AJC Coaching Career School—a school unlike any I’ve been a part of.

And somewhere in the second half of the session, amidst all the powerful insights, truths, and radical presence, the host said something that made the room pause.

He said:

And something in me just… stopped.

That line didn’t just feel like a quote. It felt like a mirror!!

Because I’ve lived a lot of my Life trying to explain myself.

Trying to explain what I do...

• Why I see things the way I do.

• Why I do things the way I do.

• Why my age doesn’t define my depth.

• Why I’m not just another guy with a newsletter or a coaching practice.

There was a time when I thought that if I could just explain it right. If I could package it powerfully enough. If I could just say the right sentence, or show the right result—

People would get it.

They’d stop doubting. They’d stop comparing. They’d stop projecting their assumptions.

And sometimes they did.

But more often than not… They moved on.

And I was the one left carrying the weight of overexplaining.

But that line yesterday?

It flipped something.

Because experience doesn’t shout.

It doesn’t need to.

Experience doesn’t argue with opinions.

It outlives them.

It builds its own rhythm. Its own center. Its own quiet authority.

And the more I sat with it, the more I realized…

So much of what I used to do wasn’t about creating. It was about defending.

• Defending my way.

• Defending my choice.

• Defending my presence in spaces that felt like they weren’t made for me.

But when you’re rooted in experience—in the actual lived moments, in the mistakes, in the repetitions, in the service, in the results—

You don’t need to say a thing.

Your BEING says it for you.

That’s one of the biggest shifts I’ve felt since starting this school.

Because here…

Nobody’s leading with strategy. Nobody’s flexing with big numbers. Nobody’s selling hacks or funnels or morning routine templates.

What we’re studying is Being.

• How you show up when it’s messy.

• How you sit in the unknown.

• How you listen.

• How you stay with someone without needing to be the one who “knows.”

And the power of that?

It’s unmistakable.

It doesn’t shout. It hums.

It doesn’t convince. It just is.

And I see now…

I’ve spent years trying to “sound” like someone. To make people feel safe with my answers. To be impressive enough to disarm their doubt.

But the real shift is this:

• You don’t need to be impressive when you are being honest.

• You don’t need to convince when you are embodying what you speak.

• You don’t need to prove anything when you are practicing it every single day.

You’re not at the mercy of someone else’s opinion when you’re anchored in the truth of your lived experience.

So today, I would love to offer a gentle reflection:

Where are you editing your voice…

Sharpening your “brand”…

Packaging yourself to sound a little more “right”?

And what if… you stopped?

To let your consistency speak. To let your breath speak. To let your integrity speak.

Because the people who know?

They’ll feel it.

And the ones who don’t?

They were never yours to convince anyway.

Your job is not to explain your experience.

Your job is to live it.

Fully. Freely. Honestly.

And let that BE the message.

Thanks for reading!

Much Love,

Julian